The Beauty in You: Podcast

Nichica Melton's Journey: Finding Purpose and Helping Others Heal

• Chi Quita Mack, MSW • Season 1 • Episode 31

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Welcome to another empowering episode of "The Beauty in You: Podcast! In today's session, we delve into the inspiring journey of Nichica Melton, an author and productivity coach who transformed her life. Nichica shares her path to rediscovery, guided by a reaffirming connection with God and her unwavering purpose.

Join us as we explore deeply relatable themes of motherhood, marriage, and self-prioritization. Nichica and Chi Quita open up about the struggles of losing oneself in societal roles, the importance of positive parenting, and breaking free from negative self-talk and upbringing. We'll also hear about Nichica's transformative book, "My Purpose is Waiting on Me," and her impactful 90-day coaching program designed to help entrepreneurs align their vision and goals.

Get ready for an episode filled with heartfelt stories, personal growth insights, and practical strategies for embracing your true self and finding the beauty within. Stick around for a free strategy session offer and learn how to connect with our hosts for ongoing motivation and inspiration. 

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Jacqueline G. [00:00:01]:
Welcome to the Beauty in you podcast, a safe place created for all women to come relax, get inspired, and be constantly reminded that they have not lost the ability to be who they once were. Join us as we dive into the true meaning of rediscovery through inspiring guests and topics such as healing, self love, and creating a positive mindset. So sit back, relax, and get comfortable as we dive into this week's episode. Here's your host, Chiquita Mack.

Chi Quita Mack [00:00:30]:
Hey, y'all. Welcome back to another, another episode of the Beauty in you podcast. I am so excited for you all to meet our special guest today. She is a focus driven and passionate individual who wears many hats with grace and excellence. She is an inspiring author of the book Breaking Free. My purpose is waiting on me and a dynamic coach who empowers entrepreneurs and business owners to enhance their productivity. She specializes in refining, scheduling organization skills and enabling her clients to cultivate sustainable and effective businesses. Welcome to the beauty in you podcast.

Chi Quita Mack [00:01:11]:
Nichika Melton. How are you, mama?

Nichica Melton [00:01:14]:
Thank you for having me.

Chi Quita Mack [00:01:16]:
I am so excited. I cannot wait to dive into your rediscovery journey. I cannot wait to talk about what you're doing now. But, yes, let's get right into it. Let's go all the way back to that rediscovery journey.

Nichica Melton [00:01:32]:
That's a long ways back. I had gone through a not so great marriage where I had totally lost who I was, didn't know who I was outside of being a mother and working in ministry. And I had gotten to the point where I was like, okay, goddess, I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing. I have no idea what I'm supposed to be focusing on outside of my children. That's an everyday thing. And I just literally. And by this time, by this time, I'm remarried, okay? And so my husband, who's my husband now, he was like, you need to just lay before God because, you know, I'm being busy. And a lot of times we get the busyness in us because there's things that we don't want to deal with, questions we can't answer.

Nichica Melton [00:02:38]:
And so we make ourselves busy, allow ourselves to be busy, allow ourselves to just be going, going, going. And that's what I was doing. And so he was like, you need to lay before God because you're asking this question. And he said, and I don't have the answer for you, so you need to let the Lord lead you. And I literally, one day when I was in the house by myself, which was a very rare occurrence. There were no kids, no husband, no nothing in the house but me. And I laid in between. I was on the floor in between the footboard and my tv.

Nichica Melton [00:03:20]:
And I said, God, I need to know because I don't know who I am right now. I lost so much of myself in my first marriage. Always redoing it, redoing me, redoing, redoing me. If I be this person, if I become this person, the marriage will get better. He'll do better. All the lies. All the lies. And I changed myself so much that I didn't know who I was.

Nichica Melton [00:03:48]:
And what the Lord said to me was, my purpose for you has never changed. And to hear that is beyond comforting, because you know that it's kind of like that, reaffirming that you haven't lost ground. Yeah, you wasted some years in that marriage, and you lost yourself, but you've not lost ground, because God's plan for you has never changed. And he took me to isaiah 61, and I had my bible in front of me, and I was like, isaiah 61, isaiah 61, what is that? What is that? And it says, the spirit of the Lord God is upon me. And God was just reaffirming, I'm with you. I've always been with you. My purpose for you has not changed. And if you're ready to put in the work, because it doesn't come easy.

Nichica Melton [00:04:43]:
If you're ready to put in the work, then let's go. And I spent the next few years just allowing God to pull back. Layers heal, provide answers to questions that one time I didn't want to ask. Just to be 100% honest with you, I didn't want to ask the questions. And it got me to the place that I am now, where, as a simplified productivity coach, I help my clients create goals that match the lifestyle that they say they want to lead. And I help them see themselves beyond the limited perspective and limited box that they've been otherwise comfortable in.

Chi Quita Mack [00:05:35]:
Yeah. Yeah. Your story sounds like my story. When we talk about getting lost in motherhood and getting lost in the marriage and then that healing part, like, I just remember, well, I just thought for a long time that my job as a mom and a wife just meant that, like, when I became a wife, then my job is to, like, make sure my husband's good. And then when I became a mom, then my job was to make sure that my husband and my kids are good. And then I'll come back to me later and. And I don't know. I feel like I always say so.

Chi Quita Mack [00:06:15]:
Sorry. Taught me that. Because I don't really know where I got it from. I don't know. I didn't. I never had a really good example of what marriage looked like growing up. I never wanted to get married because I saw a lot of stuff that I don't think young people should see, and I didn't. I knew that wasn't right now.

Chi Quita Mack [00:06:30]:
That wasn't it. I knew that that wasn't right, and so I didn't want it. But when I got it, I'm like, I really don't know what to do here. So I guess I'm supposed to just put my time here. And I was miserable. I felt like all my potential was, like, squished.

Nichica Melton [00:06:46]:
Yes.

Chi Quita Mack [00:06:47]:
And I felt like a robot every day. I felt like a straight robot, robotic person just doing all these things that I guess society wants me to do. But I am really not happy doing this, and I. And I don't really like it. If I tell somebody that, then they're probably going to say, I'm a bad mom and wife. So I might want to just keep going down this path, and I'll get to me later. And that later part was like, no, I need to get to me now. Because it turned into resentment and it turned into depression, and it turned into anxiety and all.

Chi Quita Mack [00:07:18]:
We know those are not great things for you.

Nichica Melton [00:07:20]:
Exactly.

Chi Quita Mack [00:07:21]:
Yeah. I can so relate to that. It's just like, who am I supposed to be? And how am I supposed to do this and still love me? Who am I? So I completely understand that part. Cause it's like, oh, my God, we go through so much. And, like, for me, I don't know what's right. It's right. I'm just doing what I think I'm supposed to be doing.

Nichica Melton [00:07:46]:
Right, exactly. Yeah, exactly. I didn't have that example either. And I had an epiphany back in May of this year. You know, people ask you, what did you want to be when you grow up? Where did you want to be? And I started thinking about it. I wanted to be a mom for as long as I can remember. But, child, I wasn't visioning about being nobody's wife.

Chi Quita Mack [00:08:14]:
Yeah, seriously, I understand.

Nichica Melton [00:08:18]:
Oh, my gosh. And I didn't have the examples of what it was supposed to look like. What does healthy marriage look like? And there are so many different ways that your marriage can be healthy. But I didn't have those examples. But being a mom, oh, my gosh. I wanted to be that. Cause they give you baby dolls when you're a baby. So I've always wanted to be a mom, but a wife? No.

Chi Quita Mack [00:08:50]:
Me either. I'm just being honest. My husband know, don't play, you know. No, I didn't. I didn't want to, but I always wanted to be mom. I used to tell people, like, even if I got to go to a little bank and pick my husband, like, not husband, but, like, baby father out of a book, like the sperm bank, I was so serious. I'm like. Cause I want to be a mom.

Chi Quita Mack [00:09:08]:
I'm gonna be a great mom. Oh, my God. And I. And I had to do the work on that. Where did that come from? But that, from the lack of what I felt I didn't get from my mom, and so I wanted to be a mom so I can do all those things for my baby. Like, I'm telling you, when you come out doing the work, you be going to someplace, you're like, I don't even know if I want to go here.

Nichica Melton [00:09:31]:
Right?

Chi Quita Mack [00:09:32]:
I don't even want to go here. I want to talk about your healing journey real quick because you had to heal, and I am a healing coach. That's what I do. Let's heal before we go forward and do all those great things, what would you say was one of the hardest things you had to face during your healing journey?

Nichica Melton [00:09:47]:
Oh, there were many. I would say one of the ones that I had to face was one. I didn't believe what God was saying about me because if I had truly believed it, I would not have allowed even myself to change it, and I would not have become a zombie. You know, they talk about dead man walking. I'm there. You see me, I'm interacting with you. I'm completing sentences, but on the inside, just completely dead. And if I had, if I had believed what I heard God say about me, and if I had that reinforcement, somebody coming along, reinforcing it, I don't think I would have made a lot of the decisions that I did.

Nichica Melton [00:10:42]:
So in my healing journey, when God spoke that day, regardless of what I felt, regardless of what I saw, I had to choose to believe what he was saying. That was the foundation, that was the core, that was everything. No matter if there was a reinforcement or not, I had to believe him, or I was going to be right back in this place if I ever got out of it. I had to choose to believe.

Chi Quita Mack [00:11:18]:
That's the hard part. We find it so easy to, like, accept all those negative things people say about us, because I was the same way. I was the same way anything negative or anything bad that happened, I'm like, well, maybe I deserve it. And I tried to, like, think of some way where I did something that this is maybe the Lord trying to tell me that was a lie, that was like, that's not true. But I was trying to make it make sense because there's no way that I could be worthy of such good things happening, or there's no way I could be worthy of the things that I really want to do. And so anything negative, I like, yep, anything positive, I was like, yeah, okay, or, thanks. Or, you know, I kind of rolled my eyes about it, but I had to change my mindset. Like, I had to do those positive affirmations to believe in myself.

Chi Quita Mack [00:12:11]:
And I am my biggest cheerleader now, but I was not before.

Nichica Melton [00:12:15]:
Yeah, not before.

Chi Quita Mack [00:12:17]:
And, you know, again, doing the work, you're like, where'd that come from? Because all the negative things that was said to me in my childhood, girl, how am I still here? Lord Jesus childhood. Start looking at your childhood and all those negative things that were said and done, and you start believing and looking how you move back then, back when it carries on to your adulthood, it carries on. We interact in friendships and work relationships and then intimate relationships, like, all of those things that time, that developmental time makes such a big difference, and you can carry it over, and then you see, like, hey, this is kind of repeating itself. We gotta. We gotta change this. We have to change what we feed ourselves. So that positive self talk is so important. We got to learn how to navigate through the negative self talk and embrace the positive self talk and start doing that, you know, cognitive reframing of all of those things.

Chi Quita Mack [00:13:10]:
And I think it's so important to understand that we are our biggest critics, and we have to know that we are worthy of so much more.

Nichica Melton [00:13:22]:
Yes, I agree with you 110%. And I know people will say that, well, I'm my biggest critic, and some people are and some people aren't. But I tell folk all the time. I can tell you everything that's wrong with me, and I can tell you everything that's right with me. And it was probably about maybe four or five years ago that I could say, like, standing flat footed, looking you into the depths of your soul, that I am okay with Nishika, whether you are okay or not and whatever you're not okay with, you have to add it to the list of things that you're gonna have to get over in life, because Nishika is okay with Nishika.

Chi Quita Mack [00:14:14]:
I love it. I love that. That's powerful.

Nichica Melton [00:14:21]:
It took me a long time to get there. Long time.

Chi Quita Mack [00:14:24]:
Yeah.

Nichica Melton [00:14:25]:
Growth, yes, growth. Pushing, trusting myself, trusting God. You know, just trying to make sure that I'm not repeating cycles. Because you know what you were talking about? I call them imprints. And there are imprints that are made on us all our lives, and we determine what stays and what doesn't. And, you know, when you look at your children and you start seeing remnants of something that, you know, you were like, oh, God, I remember that from when I was that, okay, we got to, uh uh. We got to cut that. Let's go ahead and talk about it because you can't carry that like I carried it.

Nichica Melton [00:15:14]:
Can't let you do it.

Chi Quita Mack [00:15:16]:
Yes. It's so crazy. It's like, I'm so happy to have this conversation with you. This is so cool. But with my kids, I am like, we're very. We talk all the time, which I love. We talked. Be telling me everything.

Chi Quita Mack [00:15:28]:
I'd be like, boy, I don't know, but I'm listening to you. Cause I wanna shut that door. But they're very, very comfortable with me. And I'm always asking them, like, how do you feel? What's going on? What do you think about that? Should I do this? What's your opinion on, like, all the time. All the time. Because I want them to know that I want them listening and that, you know, their decisions and their thoughts and their voice is being heard. And I ain't had that girl don't ask me no questions. You gotta do what I tell you to do for the long.

Chi Quita Mack [00:16:01]:
Let me tell you something. For the longest time, like, in elementary school, like, I never talked. I was like, the quiet. I was quiet. And, like, you're like, okay. I was like, you know, and my teachers, she never talks. Like, she gets good grades, but she never talks, you know, is everything okay? But you know why I didn't talk? Because I was scared to talk because my mom said, let me find out. You talk in the class.

Chi Quita Mack [00:16:24]:
I'm a bitch. I'm a beacher. And you know what? Right? And I was like, oh, my God, I don't want to get beat. Like, I'm not even going to lie to you. And so I, like, took some of those things, like, the fear, you know? Like, I don't want my kids to be scared of me. Like, they could be scared. And they do know, like, mom not playing when I do the. Like, the mama look, like, I'm not playing with you, but it's a different type of fear to me.

Chi Quita Mack [00:16:47]:
It's like, you know, I know that they know that they can make mistakes and they can learn from their mistakes, but they're not afraid to, like, talk to me about something that may be bothering them or if they're having a confrontation or something at school. You know, middle school is crazy. High school, my son's in high school, it gets crazy. They're not afraid to come to me and talk to me about those things. And so I really wanted to reshape that, you know, like, my childhood. I want y'all, don't play with me. I'm not your friend. You can talk to me, but I'm not your friend.

Chi Quita Mack [00:17:16]:
But I never wanted them to be afraid to the level of fear that I felt growing up, if that makes any sense at all.

Nichica Melton [00:17:24]:
That makes sense. That makes sense.

Chi Quita Mack [00:17:26]:
Yeah.

Nichica Melton [00:17:27]:
Yeah, absolutely. And I don't even know. Cause I feel like, you know, with my mom, she had me so young. We were kind of growing up together, and she was still discovering who she was. And growing up in the black household, you didn't talk back. If you had an opinion, you kept it to yourself, because ain't nobody asked you anything, especially as a child, you were seen and not heard. You understood. You don't be in grown folk business.

Nichica Melton [00:18:07]:
When grown folks started talking, you left the room or you went outside. Yup, yup. Cause don't let them have to tell you. And so there was always a fear. And with my children, I had to learn how to balance as they're growing up. Yes, we laugh, we talk, whatever, but don't mistake me as somebody you can talk to any kind of way like you do your friends, because there is a snaturization that will take place. And I know there was a period where my children did. They would have to describe what that fear looked like, but they knew the lines, they knew the respect, and they knew not to cross the line.

Nichica Melton [00:19:02]:
But they also knew that if something went left, no matter who did it, mama was coming with her cape, and she was shutting everybody all the way down. It didn't matter who it was, because that's what mom does. Mom is the rescuer. Mama doesn't. Mama doesn't hurt a. She doesn't feel pain. She's superwoman. She conquers everything.

Nichica Melton [00:19:30]:
She's never sad. Sometimes she get angry. Yeah, but we just gotta handle everything. And I said to my kids, right after the pandemic, maybe like a year or so ago, I apologize to them because I said, I didn't show you guys, how to go through, because you never saw me go through. You saw me with the answer. A problem was presented, and it got solved. That's all you saw.

Chi Quita Mack [00:20:06]:
Yeah.

Nichica Melton [00:20:08]:
And so when trouble did come their way, it was a lot of talking that I had to do with them. And then I realized your children never saw you go through the process of healing, of solving those problems. All those things you did, you never expose them to your process. And in that area, as parents, we do a disservice to ourselves and our kids.

Chi Quita Mack [00:20:36]:
Yeah, I would absolutely agree. My healing journey actually started because of my kids, though, because my son, it's the same thing. Like, we don't hurt. We don't feel anything. But I thought I was doing, like, a super good job of hiding that mom. Like, the mom face, the mom armor. I show nothing. I show no feelings.

Chi Quita Mack [00:21:00]:
You know, I'm really hurt right now. But they're not gonna know it, right? My son, he was five then, and he had asked me, mommy, why are you always so sad? Mm hmm. And when he said that to me, I'm like, I'm over here with this mom, Omron, doing my job. You thought you were asking me. I thought I was doing a job, and I wasn't. I wasn't doing a good job. And that's when I realized, like, you playing, you need to stop, because whatever you think you're putting on them, babies can see it. And I initially thought of, you know, my childhood.

Chi Quita Mack [00:21:34]:
I'm like, I gotta break this. I can't. I can't allow them to just see me go through that, thinking I'm doing a good job. And they can really see that mommy's hurting. That's when I put myself into, like, they're like, I found a therapist. Because, again, even though I am a big advocate on mental health and I will have y'all in my couch all day, I was like, I'm not about to sit on nobody's couch. I know y'all lying. That's not my job.

Chi Quita Mack [00:21:59]:
Like, I was literally, like, I am the biggest advocate, but for me, because I'm the strong one, like, no, I'm not going. And Trey did that to me. I said, okay, let me pull out. I know. Let me go. I have to go sit and be on the other side. It's my turn. It's my turn to do the work.

Chi Quita Mack [00:22:19]:
Yeah, it's my turn to do the work. And even my therapist, to this day, I have to thank her because she pushed me. Oh, I'm difficult. I'll be like, oh, you know you. Like, I got them difficult clients. She pushed me beyond my comfort zone, which is her job. But I used to get so mad. She'd be like, who is Chiquita? And I'm like, what are you talk.

Chi Quita Mack [00:22:43]:
Why are you asking me this? Like, you know who. Like, I already told you. She's like, no, that's Trey. No, that's Leah. No, that's Charles. Who are you? Who are you? And she pushed me every day until I had my big breakthrough. But she pushed, push, push, push, push. Yeah.

Chi Quita Mack [00:23:01]:
So I'm gonna always be thankful for her. Cause I wouldn't even be doing any of this stuff without her. And the business is called Dutch. Who I am Dutch. It's a whole story behind the name, even though it's my name. But, yeah, my kids pushed me. Pushed me to my healing journey. Cause I thought I was doing a good job wearing the mom armor, and I was doing a terrible job, which I guess it is a good thing, because I wouldn't be where I am today.

Nichica Melton [00:23:26]:
That baby set you free?

Chi Quita Mack [00:23:28]:
He did. He was like, mama, you playing? Why you look like that? I want to ask you, as you've gone through your rediscovery, is every day. I call it. It's a big circle. Like, we're always learning something new. But as you've gone through your rediscovery journey and you used to feel lost and not knowing who you are. Who are you now? Can you clearly define that? I am Blake.

Nichica Melton [00:23:59]:
I am resilient, relentless. I am focused. I am strong in my soul. I am strong in the spirit. I am fortified in the word unshakable. There's a quote by Queen Elizabeth. I think it was Queen Elizabeth first. And she said that as a woman, I am expected to bend.

Nichica Melton [00:24:32]:
I'm expected to break. She said, but I bend to no win.

Chi Quita Mack [00:24:38]:
Yes.

Nichica Melton [00:24:40]:
And when I saw that, I said, yes, ma'am, I am walking with you. Yeah. That's who I am. That's part of who I am. That's what I can say. I couldn't always say that. Not with confidence.

Chi Quita Mack [00:24:55]:
That was very confident.

Nichica Melton [00:24:57]:
Yeah. Yeah. You can't tell me any different, child, because I will tell you. You lying and you don't see clearly, and there's something wrong with you. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely.

Chi Quita Mack [00:25:11]:
I love it. Yes. You are inspiring someone out there with your story. You. You are. And, you know, like I said, I feel like I'm so happy to talk to you about this. This is so great. I get so excited.

Chi Quita Mack [00:25:25]:
Yes. Talk to me about your book.

Nichica Melton [00:25:30]:
Breaking free. Yes, breaking free. My purpose is waiting on me was the first book that I did, and it took me a year to write it. Because as I was writing it, I was healing each person within that book. Even though they're people out of the Bible, they're telling my story without telling my business. And it's done in such a way that you read the book. And then there's. There's exercises for you to do after each chapter.

Nichica Melton [00:26:08]:
So that you are self reflecting and making yourself. Making yourself look inward by answering the questions honestly. And it's one of those books that you could read it every single year. And see where you are in your journey, where you are in your mental capacity, where you are in life. Letting down all the masks, all the facades, all the little lies that you want to tell yourself. Because you don't want the answers to the questions, or you don't want to ask the questions. The book asks you the questions. And then if you're truly ready, like you say you are, you go through it, and you connect with the journey of each one of the people, each one of the persons that are talked about in that book.

Nichica Melton [00:27:04]:
When I first wrote it and self published it, I put a man on the COVID Oh, yes. And it was so crazy, because when I would go vend and my husband would be with me, they would start talking to him about the book. Because there was a man on the COVID Even when he would say, I didn't write the book, my wife wrote the book. They would ask him all the questions. And I put a man on the. Even though my picture's on the back with the self published version, I put a man on the COVID Because I know how people think. Like, a woman will read a book about it. Don't matter who wrote.

Nichica Melton [00:27:48]:
If it's a good book, it's a good.

Chi Quita Mack [00:27:49]:
Go read it.

Nichica Melton [00:27:50]:
But a dude, if it's got a woman on the front, he ain't picking it up. Yeah, he's not going to do it. So I didn't want to put myself on the front cover. I wanted it to be something that anybody could relate to. And then when the book was picked up by a publisher, it was even more generic. It's just two hands that are breaking free from chains.

Chi Quita Mack [00:28:18]:
Yes. I love that. Y'all better get this.

Nichica Melton [00:28:22]:
Yes.

Chi Quita Mack [00:28:23]:
I think healing is just. It's like, the scariest, hardest, most necessary thing that we have to do. And the fact that you have this resource out there to help people along their journey. We all have a story to tell, and what you said is like, tell your story without telling your business. I think that part of it is important, because a lot of times, like, when I'm telling, I always tell people, tell y'all story. You have a story to tell. Tell your story. It is so important that we hear where you've come from and what you're doing.

Chi Quita Mack [00:28:56]:
Like, girl, I ain't trying to tell you by my business. That is like the first thing they say. So when you said, I'm like, yes. That's like the first thing people say. I'm like, I tell you to tell your business. I told you to tell your story. Like, they're not the same thing. Like, correct story tells your story.

Chi Quita Mack [00:29:12]:
People need to hear that. You know, I speak and get off stage. Like, you don't look like you've gone through that wall. You know, you can't do the book by its cover. But that's what I'm telling you, is that, you know, healing doesn't have. I healed. I healed from this. I went, I was depressed.

Chi Quita Mack [00:29:28]:
Like, we don't look like that.

Nichica Melton [00:29:30]:
Right, exactly.

Chi Quita Mack [00:29:32]:
Tell people, like, I see you. I feel you. I was once there. You were? Yeah, I was. Yeah, I was. Because there's no difference between me and you. We all have a to tell, and I just. So important.

Nichica Melton [00:29:46]:
Yes, ma'am.

Chi Quita Mack [00:29:48]:
So important. So you're a coach now. What is the significance of you coaching and the impact you have on others?

Nichica Melton [00:30:02]:
Well, what I was finding out, because when I first got into the coaching arena, I was helping people work through identity crisis. But what I was finding was people don't like admitting that they don't know who they are. They see it as a weakness. Even when I share my situation, what I had gone through, how I got to the point that I had no clue who I was, folks just didn't want to do it. So then I started working with a coach, and one of the questions I was asked was, what do your clients, what are they saying that you helped them with? And there were four areas that when I would ask clients for reviews, these were the four things that were constantly repeated in the review. One that I helped them prioritize what they needed to focus on. I help them with their goals as far as creating goals and then breaking the goals down. I help them get organized, and I help them with their scheduling.

Nichica Melton [00:31:14]:
And so when we started, my coach and I started brainstorming, she was like, what is God telling you? I said, I keep hearing simplified productivity. She was like, oh, that's pretty interesting. She said, because there's a whole lot of high productivity coaches. She said, but I've never heard of a simplified productivity coach. I said, well, I'm one of those people. I don't feel like it should take all day to do anything. And when somebody gives me something and it just seems real complicated, my brain starts working to break that thing down. That's just how I am.

Nichica Melton [00:31:58]:
I like things to be simple. If it's not, I ain't gonna do it.

Chi Quita Mack [00:32:04]:
Yep.

Nichica Melton [00:32:04]:
I'm not gonna tell you I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna tell you. No. Do I understand what you're saying? Yeah. Am I gonna do it?

Chi Quita Mack [00:32:11]:
No.

Nichica Melton [00:32:13]:
I'm not gonna let you think I'm gonna do it. And so I created this program, which is a 90 day program that take people through mastering their vision, mastering their priorities, and mastering their day. And what I have come to shockingly discover is that most entrepreneurs have not set goals for themselves or their business. And I'm like, how do you know what direction to take your business in when you have not set goals? Are you just flying by the seat of your pants?

Chi Quita Mack [00:32:54]:
Oh, that just gave me anxiety.

Nichica Melton [00:32:59]:
It blew my mind. And I'm not talking about people that just got started, like, maybe a month or two ago, about people that have been in business for at least a year.

Chi Quita Mack [00:33:12]:
Oh, wow.

Nichica Melton [00:33:13]:
Not a single goal for their business, for themselves, because they had gotten used to, in the nine to five, somebody tells you what you're supposed to be doing, they give you your focus. But as an entrepreneur, you got to know what you want to do. You got to go after it. And so this coaching business was produced, was birthed.

Chi Quita Mack [00:33:41]:
Here it is. Yes. I love that you're acting in your. You found your purpose. You found what you're.

Nichica Melton [00:33:53]:
What you.

Chi Quita Mack [00:33:53]:
You're supposed to be doing. Let me say you're listening. You're listening to it, that part, because I think that's what's important. I think it's crazy how, when you do that, start thinking about how it works, because in the beginning, when I first started the Chiquita Mac, and I'm like, I help moms rediscover themselves through motherhood. And then what I found after doing it, I'm like, I'm helping these mamas heal. Like, see, before we. It's like, you have. But you have to start, and you have to start somewhere and still do the work and fill your purpose.

Chi Quita Mack [00:34:27]:
And then, after all, it's like, wait, this is what I really do. So I'm like, I hope I've helped women heal their minds because that's what I'm doing. You're coming to me. We about to stay healed. We gonna get great stuff you want to do before we get there. We got to do work. You know, we got to go through this framework real quick. So I just think it's so cool.

Chi Quita Mack [00:34:44]:
Like, we start off somewhere, like, okay, we're doing this. And it's like, wait a minute, I'm really doing this?

Nichica Melton [00:34:51]:
That right there.

Chi Quita Mack [00:34:52]:
Yeah.

Nichica Melton [00:34:52]:
Yes.

Chi Quita Mack [00:34:53]:
Let me. Let me live in this for a little bit. Let me embrace that for a little bit. And I was scared, too, at first to even talk about, like, healing. Like, I help women heal because, again, like, just the fear of, like, my story and, like, really getting into, like, the details of. Of that and the. I say trigger maybe some triggers in certain parts of it, but I learned how to. How to.

Chi Quita Mack [00:35:18]:
How to get through that. But what I haven't learned how to do, which a lot of people tell me, like, you're fine. Don't worry about it, is I have not been able to tell my story on stage without, like, getting teary eyed. Like, seriously. Yeah. I have not yet. I have not. Like, every time I'm, like, on stage and I get to one part, and I'm like, all right, y'all, you already know.

Chi Quita Mack [00:35:38]:
Like, I get so emotional, and I have not been able to, like, to not. But, you know, I heard people say, like, you know, that means you're connected, and that means you're this. That means you're that. And I'm like, I just want to get through one time without being like, wow. Okay, y'all.

Nichica Melton [00:35:55]:
But do the tears mean the same thing every time, or are they. Do they mean something different?

Chi Quita Mack [00:36:02]:
I think in the beginning. Wow. That's a good question. Look. That's a good question. I think in the beginning, it meant just being, like, honestly afraid. Like, I cannot believe I'm really telling these people what happened type of thing, like, the hurt. And then at this point of doing it, I still get emotional, but it's more so that I came out of it, if that makes sense.

Nichica Melton [00:36:23]:
See, that's good.

Chi Quita Mack [00:36:24]:
That's good. Yeah. But I'm like, that's awesome.

Nichica Melton [00:36:29]:
That's success.

Chi Quita Mack [00:36:30]:
Yeah. Yep. But that's my truth. But I'm here. It's not gonna stop me from getting on nobody's stage. Cause I'm coming. But I always find that emotions, like, there, and I'm like, oh, okay, you got it. You got it.

Nichica Melton [00:36:45]:
But I think that people, they need to know, and I don't know how you can work it in, but because we assume that when people are crying that they're hurting, but all tears aren't sad tears, because to cry because you made it through, you're celebrating victory. That's a whole different kind of tear.

Chi Quita Mack [00:37:06]:
Yeah. Yeah, it was hard. Lord, do self reflection. I'll be like, oh, that was me. I keep on my journals, and sometimes I do go back to read them, and I'm like, lord, I do write this. That's. Are you sure?

Nichica Melton [00:37:27]:
Pat yourself on the back, Jesus.

Chi Quita Mack [00:37:30]:
Thank you. Cause, oh, my goodness.

Nichica Melton [00:37:33]:
Mm hmm. You made it.

Chi Quita Mack [00:37:35]:
Oh, my goodness. Wow. I wanna thank you for being a guest today. You have really made me smile. I connect with you on so many different levels. So you stuck with me, girl. I'm about to be stalking you like crazy.

Nichica Melton [00:37:50]:
That sounds like a winner to me. Yes, ma'am.

Chi Quita Mack [00:37:56]:
Oh, my God. I've had such a good time. Can you let everybody know where they can find you? Yes.

Nichica Melton [00:38:05]:
The best way to find me, because it will lead you to everything, is on my website, nishikamelton.com, and it's actually on the screen behind me if anybody needs to know how to spell my name, nishikamelton.com. and it will also allow you access to a free fra ee 30 minutes strategy session with me. It is live. It is not a recording. And you leave that strategy session with actual tools and principles and techniques that you can walk away with and apply as soon as you get off of that call. So definitely go to my website, and let's connect. Let's make it happen.

Chi Quita Mack [00:39:00]:
Yes, make it happen. And for those that are listening, it's gonna always be connected in the show notes, too. You can just do click, click, click on your phone. Wherever you stream this podcast, you will have access. All right, you guys, until next time.

Jacqueline G. [00:39:15]:
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